Treeholder – Part II

By Larry Shurilla

As I climbed the stage in the banquet hall of the Pfister Hotel, bits of sharp-edged confetti stung my face while a barrage of clustered red, white, and blue balloons floated softly to the floor and bounced like pulsating jellyfish.  My wife and kids swarmed around me, hugging me, and everyone was jumping up and down amid a deafening clash of campaign music and cheers.  Behind the stage and hanging some10 feet above was a gigantic banner that read “Congratulations Senator Justin Thao!”  

Jerry Strong took the podium and started clapping his hands over his head.  The  crowd, sensing Jerry’s intention, joined him in unison and filled the hall with a thunderous beat—the drumbeat of victory.  As I took my seat in the front row of the stage, I noticed a security man standing near the door that led to the hallway.  Besides the typical short blue coat, matching pants, and walkie-talkie strapped to his waist, I noticed he was wearing a bright red St. Louis Cardinals’ baseball hat. 

*****

“Check out all the cardinals!” my sister Katie shouted into the glass pane of the window that looked out into our small back yard.  There I saw a tree with a half dozen cardinals looking like an apple tree in the early fall, except this was a maple tree in the middle of the summer.  “And look!  Grandpa Xeng is at the bottom, holding the tree trunk again!”

As a wiry boy of 13, I was ready to run at any time of the day or night.  Just point me in a direction and I was off, like a fun-seeking-missile on a seek-and-annoy mission, and this time my target was Grandpa Xeng. 

“Grandpa, what are you doing?” I asked.  Grandpa Xeng didn’t make a move.  He just stood there, holding the tree with a smile on his face and his eyes fixed on the birds. 

He never turned around as he said, “Don’t make so much noise, Justin.  You’ll scare the cardinals away.”

“How did you know it was me, Grandpa?” I asked, but Grandpa Xeng never turned around.  I tapped him on his shoulder and for the first time he looked at me and gently put both hands on my face.  I repeated, “How did you know it was me, Grandpa?”

Grandpa Xeng was looking very intently at my lips and said, “You run heavy, like a bouatay.”

“What’s a bouatay?”

“It’s a wild boar, like a small buffalo.  There were many bouatay in our native land of Laos.”

“Oh! A buffalo, like on the back of an old nickel, Grandpa?”

“No, Justin, like in the back of our yard.  I knew you were coming the moment I felt the door slam.  Now be still, Justin, and listen to the cardinals’ music.”

Grandpa Xeng gave the back of my neck a squeeze and then returned his hands to the tree trunk.  “They won’t stay long, Justin.  The cardinal song is very beautiful, but they have much to do and little to say.  They are God’s messengers.  I sometimes wish people were more like cardinals.”

I finally thought the right moment had come for me to ask Grandpa Xeng what his accident was all about, how he lost his hearing.  I tapped him on the arm again and when he looked at me I asked, “What happened to your ears, Grandpa?  Why can’t you hear?”

“I had an accident, long ago, Justin.”

“Grandma Blia already told me you had an accident, but I want to know what kind of accident!  Did you hurt your ears swimming in the Mekong River?  I saw you on Grandma’s tapestry swimming in a big river.  Did you get sick and not have good medicine?  What happened, Grandpa?”

Grandpa Xeng looked away and said, “You are too young, Justin.”

“I’m not too young, Grandpa!  If it’s a war story, don’t be afraid to tell me!  I’ve seen war movies on TV that show people’s heads blown off!  I can take it, Grandpa!  Plus, I‘ve played M-rated war games too!  I can take it!”

Grandpa looked away from the tree and seemed to stare off into space.  His smile was gone now and I knew by looking at the lines in his forehead that his mind had gone to a place with pain.

“My story is no movie, Justin–no video game.”

“Grandma Blia said one day you would tell me the story of your accident.  I know you can’t hear, Grandpa, but I will listen well!  You’ll only have to tell me once and I’ll remember; I promise.”

“Perhaps it is time, Justin, time for you to know.  I am growing old and my memory is fading.  What I tell you now, you must always remember and tell your own children someday.  Our road to America was not an easy one.  My story is your story.  It is your father’s story.  It is our people’s story.  We must always be thankful that God has led us here to America.

“To understand my accident, you must first understand more about me.  I was born long ago about a day’s walk from Phou Bia in the country of Laos.  Phou Bia is a beautiful mountain, Justin.  Phou means “mountain” in Laotian.  It’s over 9,000 feet tall and is the highest mountain in all of Laos.  Sometimes living here in Wisconsin, I feel so unsheltered, like I’m on top of the world and the wind will blow me right off!  When there’s a mountain always looking down at you, you somehow feel protected and watched over.  I grew up with Phou Bia watching over me.

“About 100 miles southwest of Phou Bia is the Capital of Laos-Vientiane, which we visited often.  My parents were born in China and moved to Laos before I was born.   I went to school in Laos everyday until I was 15.  Then I decided to join the Phatoo, the Laotian army, and I served for many years under the famous general, Vangpao.  At that time, our country, Laos, was at war with North Vietnam.  It was my job to guard the northern part of Laos and make sure the North Vietnamese didn’t invade our land.  Do you know about the Vietnam War, Justin?”

“I saw a movie about Vietnam once, with a lot of American helicopters and people in the jungle fighting!  Did you work with the Americans, Grandpa?”

“Yes and no.  The Americans came to us and asked us to help defeat the North Vietnamese, secretly.  I never saw a lot of Americans, but we usually had an advisor or two helping us to plan attacks and disrupt the North Vietnamese operations.”

“Did you ever get shot, Grandpa?  Did you ever see any real action?”

Grandpa Xeng didn’t answer a word.  He simply held up his left hand and pointed to a round scar the size of an acorn between his thumb and forefinger.  “A bullet went through my hand, right here,” he said. 

*****

“It was a hot and rainy evening in August, 1972.   I was on patrol near Phou Tong in northern Laos close to the Vietnamese border.  Our scouts had reported hearing some movement in the jungle about 300 yards from our base camp.  I was sent as a part of two patrols of 8 men each, to investigate the area. 

“Nighttime in the jungle is especially dangerous, Justin.  The enemy can be hiding in a bush right next to you and you can’t see them.  The only thing that helped us was that the North Vietnamese army wore yellow uniforms.  They stood out much easier against the jungle than did our own green uniforms, but the nighttime blends the colors.  Without sunlight, there is no color in the jungle.  All things appear in shades of gray and black, just shadows, dark and darker spots.  We were looking for the shapes of men, men holding rifles.

“Because our vision was so limited at night, our hearing became very good.  You may think that is funny now, Justin, but there was a time when I didn’t have to look at people’s lips to understand what they were saying.  When I stood still in the night, I could hear the breathing of my fellow soldiers many feet away.  If anyone or anything  made a sudden movement, even if it was nothing more than someone scratching his shoulder, I could hear it!  When you’re on patrol, you’re even more sensitive to sound because your life could depend on what you hear or what you don’t hear. 

“We spread out in a searching pattern that we often used. At first we could only hear the wind as it passed through the heavy jungle leaves.  Suddenly we heard a hissing sound above us! 

“Five of us pointed our rifles toward the sky and were ready to shoot at the slightest movement in the trees.  Without any warning, one of my friends, Meng, screamed as something fell on his bare arm and bit him!”

“What bit him, Grandpa?!” I asked.

“It was a Nanblong, a leaf snake.  They are about one meter long and an inch thick.  Nanblong are green and have red eyes, like a devil.  They have very sharp teeth and are extremely poisonous.  If you are bitten by one, you will become very hot with fever and after a few days in the steamy jungle, you will die.  There was no cure for their venom.

“After Meng was bitten, we saw many nanblong in the trees above us and their hissing sounded like many tires losing air.  With Meng groaning and the nanblong hissing, the North Vietnamese had a fix on us and opened fire.  Within seconds, the air was filled with the loud cracking of rifle fire and the pffffft of bullets slicing through the thick night air.  I fired in the direction of most of the rifle flashes until my rifle flew out of my hands and then I felt a burning in my left hand like someone was pushing a red hot stake into it.  I fell to the ground and grabbed my left hand with my right and felt hot liquid oozing through my fingers.  It looked like black water in the nighttime, Justin, but it only took a moment to realize it was my own blood.

“When the shooting finally stopped, we heard the North Vietnamese soldiers shouting insults and running away into the night.  We took a few more shots in their general direction and then cared for our wounded.  Five soldiers in my platoon of 20, five of my friends, lay dead in the tall, elephant grass.  I was one of the lucky ones.  I was only shot through my hand.  Meng made it through the firefight with the Viet Cong, that was the name of the North Vietnamese Army, but the fire of the nanblong in his veins took his life four days later.”

Treeholder – Part I

Grandma Blia reached down with her leathery fingers and grabbed my little hand and said, “It is time for you to know, Justin.”  She led me up the carpet worn stairs to her bedroom in our old house in downtown Milwaukee.  She paused before her room, pushed open the handleless door and led me to her bed–a well-worn mattress lying on the floor. 

As I sat on the bare hardwood floor, Grandma Blia went to an old dresser and pulled out the bottom drawer.  Ever so carefully, she placed one hand beneath and the other on top of a large piece of folded blue fabric.  She said in the Hmong language it was called a naj ntaub, a flower cloth.  She gently took the cloth out of the drawer and with great care, unfolded, and laid it out on her mattress. 

To a boy of seven, the heavy fabric was about the most wonderful piece of art I had ever seen.  It was about six feet long and four feet wide.  Most every inch of the cloth contained some sort of detailed embroidery depicting majestic trees and exotic flowers, colorful birds, a churning river, and swirling clouds.  There were also many types of people, some in beautiful dresses and some in soldiers’ uniforms carrying guns.  There were strange looking animals, grass roofed huts, cornfields, razor-wire fences, and oriental style buildings.  In a word, the tapestry was magical.  It looked more like a famous painting on canvas than intricate needlework on cloth.  Grandma Blia then pulled me close and staring deeply into my eyes with all the love gathered from a lifetime of sacrifices said, “This tapestry tells the story of our people, Justin, our family, the story of the Hmong.  You must never forget it.”

*****

“Never forget it…never forget….”

My reverie was broken by the sudden skid of tires and the bright, strobelike flashes of reporters’ cameras.  The car door flung open and amid wild applause and boisterous chanting, my campaign manager, Jerry Strong, stuck his head in the car and shouted, “We did it Justin!  With 95% of the precincts’ votes counted, we hold a 4% lead!  We can’t lose!  You’ve won Senator!  Get used to hearing it, Justin.  Senator Justin Thao of the great state of Wisconsin.  It has a nice ring to it, doesn’t it?”

Jerry led me quickly through the jubilant crowd that had gathered outside the Milwaukee Pfister Hotel and into a small receiving room near the main banquet hall and anxiously waiting press.  After shaking all my party leaders’ hands, Jerry said, “OK, Justin, here’s the scoop.  About five minutes ago, Ex-Senator Nelson thanked his people, conceded the election and congratulated you.  You’re scheduled to make your acceptance speech in about ten minutes!  This is what we’ve waited for buddy…ah, I mean Senator.  Go knock em’ dead Justin!  Show the people of Wisconsin why they made the right choice for senator.  Man, I’m so proud of you.”

As I walked down the plush red carpeting that led up to the podium, I thought of all the people I needed to thank, all the people that helped me get to this point in my life–my family, my teachers, my friends.  With all these faces swirling around my thoughts like loose photos in a dust devil, my mind was suddenly drawn back again, thirty years, to that room with my grandma, Blia.

*****


Pointing to a small image on the tapestry of a man standing under a tree with both hands touching the trunk, I asked, “Grandma, who is this man holding the tree with all the colorful birds?”

“That is your Grandpa Xeng (pronounced Seng).  His nickname in Hmong is “Tug Tuav Ntoo,” or in English, “Treeholder.”

Over the years, Grandma Blia had brought out the tapestry many times to show me the embroidered scenes and explain what they had to do with our family.

“Why was he called that, Grandma?”

“That is not a short story, Justin.”

“Oh, please Grandma!  Tell me about the Treeholder and the birds!”

“Well then, as you know, Grandpa Xeng is deaf, but he was not born that way.  Once, long ago, Grandpa Xeng had an accident in our native land of Laos that took his hearing from him.  After the accident, he couldn’t hear anything—not a sound!  Even if you stood up on a chair and screamed into his ears, he still couldn’t hear a word you said!  This made Grandpa Xeng very sad.  One day, while he was still recovering from the accident, he was sitting under a small shady tree in the hot afternoon sun.  He said he felt a strange tingling along his back, and quickly jumped to his feet, violently brushing his back, thinking some ants or other bugs had crawled up his shirt!  When he realized there were no bugs on his back, he looked up and noticed that a handful of birds were perched not too far up in the tree.  He could see their beaks moving, but he could not hear their song.  While he was still looking at the birds, he gently touched the trunk of the tree and said he could feel the vibrations of the birds singing!  Their song had traveled through the trunk of the tree and into his hands!  Grandpa Xeng said he felt that God had given him the gift, to hear with his hands. 

Ever since that day, Grandpa Xeng was given the name, Tug Tuav Ntoo, Treeholder.  He once told me that he could tell what kind of bird was in a tree by the pattern of vibrations he felt in his hands!  You know, Justin, Grandpa Xeng doesn’t say much; he’s too worried he won’t understand what other people are saying, so he thinks it’s just better to keep quiet and not risk the misunderstanding.  But give him time and he’ll talk; he’ll talk a lot.  He’ll say things that he thinks are important for you to know, things that a person should really listen to without asking many questions.  This may also sound strange, but I really believe birds come to him, just so he can feel their song!  Many times when we go for walks, he’ll touch a tree and in a few minutes the tree will fill with birds!  It is really amazing, Justin.  Whenever I see a tree full of birds now, I think of him, and I wonder if he isn’t too far off somewhere.  He is such a gentle man and has done so much for our family.”

“Grandma, what accident did Grandpa Xeng have that made his hearing go away?”

“For that answer, Justin, you’ll have to ask Grandpa Xeng yourself! You might have to ask him more than once and make sure you’re facing him when you speak, but give him time.  Over the years, he’s become pretty good at reading lips and he learned very good English before the accident.  He’ll understand your question and eventually he’ll give you an answer.  Just be patient with him.  You’ll be surprised at how much he might have to say.”

*****

Public Virtue

By Larry Shurilla

The greatest public act of personal integrity in my lifetime-the vote of Mitt Romney in the impeachment trial of President Donald Trump.

Few times in my life, have I seen a political leader under the kind of pressure our government can inflict, stand so tall, reject the easy way out, and give us all the hope that there is still virtue in our elected officials. It only takes one voice, crying out in the wilderness of consensus, to raise our eyes to the public virtue that our Founding Fathers believed exists within us all. In our society of hurricane force media bias, the only fear I have is if America can still recognise truth. I believe we can. Truth is calm. Truth is clear. Truth feels right in our hearts. It always has and always will.

I quote from Romney’s speech:

“Like each member of this deliberative body, I love our country. I believe that our Constitution was inspired by Providence. I’m convinced that freedom itself is dependent on the strength and vitality of our national character. As it is with each senator, my vote is an act of conviction. We’ve come to different conclusions fellow senators, but I trust we have all followed the dictates of our conscience.

“I acknowledge that my verdict will not remove the president from office. The results of this Senate court will, in fact, be appealed to a higher court, the judgment of the American people. Voters will make the final decision, just as the president’s lawyers have implored. My vote will likely be in the minority in the Senate, but irrespective of these things, with my vote, I will tell my children and their children that I did my duty to the best of my ability believing that my country expected it of me.

“I will only be one name among many, no more, no less, to future generations of Americans who look at the record of this trial. They will note merely that I was among the senators who determined that what the president did was wrong, grievously wrong. We are all footnotes at best in the annals of history, but in the most powerful nation on Earth, the nation conceived in liberty and justice, that distinction is enough for any citizen.

“Thank you, Mr. President. I yield the floor.”

It is interesting to compare the two Utah Republican senators’ explanations of their differing votes on the impeachment of President Trump. If you have the time, watch both speeches and perhaps, gain a deeper insight into your personal beliefs.

Senator Mitt Romney, Republican, Utah:

Senator Michael Lee, Republican, Utah:

Fellow Citizens, let us all become footnotes in the history of America this November. Stand for what you believe in and for the virtuous ideals that make America great-honor, integrity, truth. Please vote for the candidate of your conscience.

Finally, in the realm of public virtue, I yield the floor to the senator from Utah, Mr. Mitt Romney.

With Eve

By Larry Shurilla




With Eve by Larry Shurilla
(Wheresover she was, there was Eden – Mark Twain)

There was a time when the world was mine
And I named all the flowers and the trees
But something was missing and good God was listening
And sent me my beautiful Eve

The first time I saw her,
She was caressing a trembling lamb in her arms
From that very moment I fell in love forever
And knew why this garden was called paradise

Wheresoever she was, there was Eden
Whatsoever she touched, there sprang new life
Whensoever she wooed me, all the stars in the Heavens
Spun down to earth and crowned her with light

There was a time when our world was new
And we started to make a life together
But something was missing and good God was listening
And sent us a beautiful baby

Again I saw her. She was rocking a feverish child in her arms
At that very moment, I fell in love forever
And knew a mother’s love was greater than all

Wheresoever she was, there was Eden
Whatsoever she touched, there sprang new life
Whensoever she wooed me, all the stars in the Heavens
Spun down to earth and crowned her with light

There comes a time when our worlds fall apart
And beauty is taken from our eyes
But through clouds of tears and the passing of years
God promised I’d hold her again

When next I see her
Our kisses will touch like the first falling rain
At that very moment I’ll fall in love forever
And look into her eyes and we’ll be young again.

Wheresoever she was, there was Eden
Whatsoever she touched, there sprang new life
Whensoever she wooed me, all the stars in the Heavens
Spun down to earth and crowned her with light

Though I’m Ancient of Days, this I believe
My happiest days were, with Eve

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I Grew Up With A Hero – Part 11

By Larry Shurilla

During my compilation of Stalg Luft I data, I came across a VHS tape showing liberation footage of the camp! During the screening of this videotape, we scoured the faces hoping to come across a certain Marquette University hurdler and sure enough, we think we found our man. Whether it’s my dad or not, we’ll never know in this world, but I think we found him leaving his Baltic Sea resort. See if you agree or not. I stop the video three times to focus in on him. Sorry you have to download the video to watch, but I think it’s worth your time. Special thanks to Simon and Garfunkel’s “Bookends” for the background music.

I Grew Up With A Hero – Part 10

By Larry Shurilla

Red Wing by Jo Stafford with Paul Weston

Permit me to close this chapter of I Grew Up With A Hero with some of the lyrics from Red Wing, the whistled song that rekindled hope in the heart of Stalag Luft I POW, Clair Cline. Some 400,000 American warriors gave the ultimate sacrifice for their country and never returned home from World War II.

But when all the braves returned,
The heart of Red Wing yearned,
For far, far away, her warrior gay,
Fell bravely in the fray.

Now, the moon shines tonight on pretty Red Wing
The breeze is sighing, the night bird’s crying,
For afar ‘neath his star her brave is sleeping,
While Red Wing’s weeping her heart away.

The All Girl Orchestra

By Larry Shurilla

Sometimes our dreams don’t come true. Well, at least sometimes things don’t quite turn out the way we planned, another dream comes along and that’s the life we live. Who’s to say which dream was better? Who’s to say which path was best? Who’s to say.

When we look back at the life we’ve lived, will we see a moment that changed everything? A fork in the road? A path less traveled? Back in the late 1930’s a Cudahy girl with a velvety voice and big band dreams had a choice that made all the difference in the world. At least for me and my siblings it did. That singer was my mom.

When something from 80 years ago reaches out from the past and grabs your heart today, well, that’s something to talk about.

So let’s talk. Here’s the story.

From the mid 1930s through around 1948, Russian immigrant, Phil Spitalny, and his Orchestra crooned the airways of American radio every Sunday night in what was billed, “The Hour of Charm.” What made this particular orchestra so unique was that it was made entirely of women, except for its conductor, Phil, of course. In the no-nonsense talk of the day, Phil once said, “Give me women to work with every time . . . They’re more cooperative and they don’t waste their emotions on much except their music.”

Phil Spitalny’s All Girl Orchestra in 1938

After performing with his all-female orchestra for a time, Phil decided to expand his act and add female singers. He held nationwide auditions and here is where my mom comes in! Having been raised in a musical family in Cudahy, Wisconsin, Ruth Ruddy was blessed with a beautiful, sultry singing voice. I know because growing up I was blessed with lullabies and impromptu singing as she stroked my back at bedtime, put stuffing in the turkey, or was painting portraits and whimsical landscapes in our den. Ruth was such an artist-poet, painter, sculptor and singer. She had it all and a family with six kids, but excuse me for getting ahead of myself. Let’s get back to the late 1930s.

As Ruddy family lore goes, Ruth’s mother, Louise, once had a local radio show somewhere in Wisconsin where much singing and playing was conducted on a hometown scale. The Ruddy house was always a place to hang-out and jam. Even Ruth’s brother Bill went on to become a successful jazz guitarist and play the Milwaukee scene professionally for many years. When Ruth was about 20 years old, she felt the performing itch and went to WTMJ in Milwaukee to make some audition records for Spitalny’s All Girl Orchestra. What I wouldn’t give to hear her sing those big band ballads of the 30’s and 40’s, sung in her prime! Just wait on that one.

Of all the pictures that get lost in the shuffle of life, this one did not. Here’s a picture of Ruth during that very audition at WTMJ.

Ruth Ruddy’s audition at WTMJ

Phil Spitalny would be considered a hard businessman by today’s standards. Once under contract, he held his performers to a strict and rigid routine, requiring five to six hours of practice a day and the women had to pledge not to leave and get married without giving six months’ notice! I guess it’s kind of hard for us to understand this type of ultimatum in the 21st Century, but back in the post-World War II, Leave It To Beaver era, most women stayed at home and raised a family. A conductor couldn’t book gigs and radio shows a year in advance with half of his orchestra running down rice coated church steps!

As corroborated by Ruth’s sister, Faye (Ruddy) Campbell, after listening to Ruth’s audition recordings, Spitalny offered Ruth a contract to sing with the All Girl Orchestra! A dream come true! A big stage for a big voice and the opportunity of a lifetime. But there happened to be another offer on the table. You see, a certain Marquette University track star and returned World War II B-17 war hero had also noticed the suave beauty from Cudahy and proposed a life together.

So there it was, the moment in time I was talking about earlier. A moment that determines destiny. Ruth had the offer of a husband and the promise of a family on one hand and Phil Spitalny’s All Girl Orchestra on the other. Ruth was always such a kind, meek, loving woman-my mom. She wasn’t at all like her big sister, Lois, who was gregarious and the life of the party. Lois would’ve grabbed that contract and ran all the way to New York with it. Ruth? No way. She would’ve hated all that attention. Well, that is truly a question that no one but Ruth can answer, but she did make the audition record. And she also said yes to the flyboy-Bob Shurilla, my dad.

Ruth Ruddy marries Bob Shurilla in 1947

So why all the fuss now? Yeah, it’s a good story, but that all happened some 80 years ago. Yes it did, but sometimes the past can reach out and in an instant pull you right back from iphones and Facebook to Philco radios and The Saturday Evening Post.

It was a Friday in August of 2017. My sister, Kim, (actually we all call her “Sissy”) was having dinner at a downtown Milwaukee, Italian restaurant with her husband, Don, when a longtime family friend, Paul “The Kahuna” Finger, ran up to her, pulled Sissy aside and the conversation went something like this:

“Kim! You won’t believe what’s happened? It’s a miracle!”

“What, Kahuna? What’s going on?”

“You know I collect old 78 records, right? Well, I read about this estate sale in Elm Grove from a former TMJ employee and it sounded like there would be a lot of old records. I went to the sale and sure enough there were stacks of old 78s, the metal kind coated with plastic acetate. I flipped through a bunch of them, all without sleeves, and left with a big stack for a couple of bucks. I went home and started listening to them. I must’ve been listening for a couple hours and was kind of sleepy and then it happened! I hear a woman say, ‘My name is Ruth Ruddy and I’m going to sing George Gershwin’s Embraceable You.’ And there it was, Kim! It was your mom, Ruth, singing that song! She also sang another song called, ‘I Love You!’”

Most people knew my mother as Ruth Shurilla. The Kahuna was so close to my brother, Mark, (also a Milwaukee musician) that he knew her maiden name, Ruddy. Sissy was astonished! What are the chances? A stack of old 78s? Listening and hearing, “Ruth Ruddy?” Knowing who that was? The odds of this happening are astronomical, but it seems if a message is meant to get through, it gets through.

Not long after their meeting, Kahuna brought the records over to Sissy’s house. He just so happened to bring the records on the day of a family reunion. Picture the scene. Faye, the oldest living member of the Ruddy family was there in Sissy’s backyard, along with Ruth’s other children, Kevin, Danny, Shawn, Larry and their spouses, Rosebud, Janet, Linda and Kathy. Faye’s daughters, Colleen and Maureen were there along with two of Ruth’s nieces, Noelle and Neani. You might say it was like one of those gatherings at the old Ruddy house in Cudahy and the jam session was about to begin.

For an acetate recording to survive 80 years is a miracle. For it to be in the middle of a stack of records you just happen to pick up at an estate sale is a miracle. To  recognize a voice and a name spoken into a microphone 80 years prior, is a miracle. But the real miracle was about to begin. Here we were, a family gathering of my mother Ruth’s closest surviving relatives, about to hear her sing to us once more.

As Kahuna placed the phonograph needle on the old 78 and the scratchy grooves came alive in the speaker, ever so gently we all heard the beautiful, unmistakably smooth Ruth Ruddy voice warm our hearts once more singing, “Embraceable You.” That was a song Ruth was still singing around the house weeks before she passed at age 90 in 2010.

And now my patiently reading friend, if you’ve made it thus far on this magical musical tour, you deserve to hear the voice you’ve read so much about. Let me introduce to you, Ruth Ruddy. The best singer Phil Spitalny’s All Girl Orchestra almost had and the remarkably talented woman that sang us to sleep many a night and filled our home and childhood with song.

Embraceable You by Ruth Ruddy

After listening to Kahuna play those songs, a tear-filled Sissy hatched a plan to get those fragile recordings into a format that would endure and her family and friends could enjoy forever. As Kim soon learned those old acetate albums were only meant to be played a few times before they would deteriorate into a garbled mess. The race was on to save those recordings!

As fate’s hand continued to reach out to us, Kim’s good friend and neighbor, Ann Hughey, heard the story about the records and how Sissy wanted to give them to her family for Christmas. Ann suggested that her husband, Brandon, (who just so happens to be an avid record collector and has expertise in transferring acetate 78 records into mp3 format), make her some audio CDs for Christmas! Ann told Kim this is precisely the kind of thing that thrills him most in life-to figure out how to and then restore antique recordings to a modern playable format. Could Sissy have ordered a more perfect assistant to make this gift happen?

I won’t go into the extremely delicate song restoration process, but suffice it to say that a hundred things could’ve gone wrong to upset the music permanently, but instead, a hundred things went right. On Christmas Eve, 2018, (Christmas Eve was always the traditional time for Christmas celebrations in Ruth’s home), Brandon walked into Sissy’s house, full of family and friends, and presented her with 12 CDs of Ruth’s two audition recordings with Ruth’s radio picture on the covers! Brandon was introduced to a thunderous applause, the songs were played, and once more Ruth was with us on Christmas Eve like she had been for so many years before. To quote one of my mother’s poems, “They’re closer at Christmas, those dear ghosts from the past…”

Thank you, Kahuna, Brandon, and Sissy for making all this possible. Ruth touched each of you in a special way to bring her voice and message to life.

Permit me the luxury of adapting some words from the great Robert Frost, whom my mother loved so well:

“I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I–

I took the one more traveled by

And that has made all the difference.”

For my siblings and I and the entire baby-boomer generation, thank you, Mom Ruth (that’s how she always signed those birthday cards that she never missed). Thank you for using your talents and love to raise us. To help us see the world with an artists’ brush. To feel life like a poet and to hear through your song the melodies of nature. Thank you for tucking that love note in a stack of 80-year-old 78s, neatly placed for us to find while we’re apart for a while. The nation may have had one less Peggy Lee to adore, but your legacy of love has and will affect generations to come. We love you so, Mom Ruth.

Before you go, Mom, could you please sing to us one more time? Just once more, to last till we meet again…

I Love You by Ruth Ruddy
The family gathers to listen to Ruth’s songs.
Brandon Hughey delivers the Christmas CDs
Ruth Ruddy Shurilla